All too often I hear people saying they have no regrets because every little thing that’s happened to them is what has made them who they are today. This is a cute sentiment but I think it’s a load of rubbish? I definitely have regrets, and I see nothing wrong in taking ownership of them..
Firstly, I have loads of regrets about what I haven’t done. I lived in Holland for a year but I didn’t visit as many cities as I wanted to and some of this was purely down to laziness. Of course I regret being lazy and missing experiences! This hasn’t helped me be a better person today- it’s done the opposite! The phrase ‘no regrets’ is rubbish- you can learn from them.
And then I have some regrets of how I’ve treated people.. I’ve flaked on plans perhaps, or said things I’ve not meant. Once you’ve said something you can’t ever really take it back and as a human with human emotions I feel guilty and regretful and that’s well deserved. To say you don’t regret something is to say you’re unapologetic for any wrong you’ve done someone. Likewise I’m perhaps regretful of being too nice to people who haven’t deserved it. It works both ways but yetttt again I’m owning it.
This is just a bit of a rant I suppose, because it’s a feeling which seems so popular to deny having. We are all constantly learning and it’s totally okay to appreciate where we’ve gone wrong and quite simply wish we didn’t go wrong!! Dwelling on the past obviously doesn’t solve anything but it’s natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Moving on from mistakes is a process and I’m sick of seeing people say they’ve no regrets.
Thanks for reading and sorry for the venting! I wish I was back with a more positive post but such is life. I have, however, got someone to take photos of me for some upcoming fashion posts so keep your eyes peeled for those!